~Monday, February 11~
It felt good to sleep in this morning after such a long day of traveling yesterday. Dad and Aunt Debbie left early this morning for a meeting at the funeral home followed by a meeting at the church.
After I had eaten breakfast, I decided to help Dad by going through the house collecting any remaining medical supplies and medication that needed to be disposed of. I also spent about an hour on the phone trying to find places to take all the items I had collected (everything from prescription medication, oxygen tubing, expired over-the-counter drugs, assorted ointments, and more.) I had also gathered some of Grandpa’s winter clothing to donate as well.
All
the stuff to be donated. I filled up a bag the size of the one filled with
clothes on the floor, with medicines!
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I had no idea how difficult it would be to find places to take the meds! I thought most any pharmacy would take them and dispose of them, but apparently that’s not the case. I called several pharmacies, one college, the courthouse, the county health department, the nursing home, and the city mission (about the clothes.) It was definitely stretching for someone who isn’t a big fan of talking with strangers over the phone!
Once I had finally figured out where we needed to go, I had to get driving directions. But unfortunately the wifi at the house got messed up, so we were using the iPad for our internet, and that only gets 1 bar at their house. And on top of that, I couldn’t print from it! So I had to write out a whole page of directions. Imagine! J
Then I finally called my Abuelo who had arrived in town the night before and asked him to take me to the pharmacy and the city mission to dispose of everything. He graciously took me to both places.
It was difficult driving by the nursing home so many times over the week. I so desperately wanted to stop, sign the guestbook, and walk down the long hallway to Grandma’s room. I wanted to walk in behind her wheel chair and give her a big hug and ask how she was feeling. I wanted to say hello to the security guard at the desk who had become a friend to us, and also our favorite nurse in the skilled care unit. But I couldn’t. There’s no Grandma there anymore, and it hurts.
That evening we had a big family dinner at the house. Our family, my Aunt and her family, my Abuela and Abuelo from Ohio, and my Dad’s 2 cousins from Virginia all came. We actually ended up with TWO dinners that night; the neighbor across the street brought over a huge dinner, and my Uncle’s Mom who lives in town brought us dinner as well. We put away the dinner brought over by the neighbor for another day and enjoyed the turkey, mashed potatoes, biscuits, veggies, and fruit salad brought over by my Uncle’s Mom.
The
5 girls crammed around the card table (that doesn’t have chairs) in the living
room.
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The
grownups pulled a card table to make an extension of the dining room table so
that all the adults could eat together.
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The
boys picnicked in the den with towels on the floor.
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This morning I got up early to go with Daddy to the church to drop off a CD with the powerpoint slideshow I had made in honor of Grandma. It was good to see Pastor D again. I only wish it was under different circumstances.
We quickly drove home because we had a couple coming in (realtors) to look at the house and talk about putting it on the market. They seem like a really nice couple, and they’re optimistic that the home will sell quickly at a realistic price.
Look
at the size of the bullets!! That gun is meant for serious hunting. Thankfully
T is very careful.
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The
lovely ladies (one of them may or may not have had too much ham . . . J
[pun intended])
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We
decided to get some pictures with the cousins that afternoon. Our cousin B
always has a way of making us laugh. Sometimes it’s hard to believe that he
works at a funeral home. J
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This
is the good picture of our family. In the picture before this, I had spun
around and made a face at my Aunt who had shot a rubber band at me. J
Photo
Credit: Our Cousin M.
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We had arrived an hour early to the funeral home. Pastor D met us there with hugs and words of comfort. He has been a tremendous blessing to our family in this time, and God has truly knit our hearts together during these trials. I think one reason he has been such an extra blessing to us, is that he is a lot like my Grandpa. They are both tall in stature but gentle in nature. They both love singing and have a deep love for their Savior. While no one will ever replace my Grandpa’s place in our hearts, it was a gift from God to have someone so much like him to help us through the grieving process.
When all the immediate family had arrived, we proceeded into the funeral parlor for the private family viewing. Before I even had a chance to really look at Grandma, the tears started falling. The feelings of déjà vu were overwhelming. I just couldn’t believe that my other Grandparent was lying in a casket in front of me, all over again.
After we had a few minutes to take it in and cry, Pastor D gathered us all in a circle and prayed with us amidst his own tears. After that he left, and we waited for the viewing to officially start.
One
of my Dad’s best friends and mentors who lives in PA sent this blanket in honor
of Grandma. He lost his wife—who was quite young—back
in July, so he knew very well what we were going
through.
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Everyone
looking at the casket. The funeral home was very beautiful and peaceful. They
do an excellent job.
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Grandma
looked so beautiful. Most of the time
people don’t look like themselves at the viewing. But I can honestly say that
Grandma looked like Grandma, only 10 years younger. Her body had been badly
bruised because of the skin issues she had from taking the steroid medications,
but the funeral home did an excellent job covering the bruises. They fixed her
hair and makeup beautifully, just the way she would have dressed up to go out.
The dress she is wearing is the same one she wore for my parents’ wedding 24
years ago, and the same one she had worn to Grandpa’s
funeral. She looked so peaceful.
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Dear bianca;I've read "all" of your blog and founded facinating.
ReplyDeleteIT WAS A REAL PLEASURE READING OF ALL THE SPECIAL MOMENTS THAT WE SPENT TOGETHER UNDER SUCH DIRE CIRCUMSTANCES. CONTINUE THE GREAT WORK THAT
YOU ARE DOING AND DON'T GET DISCOURAGE ABOUT PEOPLE'S INSENSITIVITY TO "REALITIES".
Love, Bio
Thank you so much for your comment, Bio, and welcome to our blog! I'm so glad that you've had a chance to read the blog and catch up a bit. Thank you also for your encouragement; we really appreciate it!
ReplyDelete~Bianca